Dating and Dessert-The Chocolate Lava Cake

M2 was a chocolate lava cake. He jumped off the menu right onto my table! And he was welcome…  Entirely interesting, sweet, warm and complex, powdered sugar on top. What’s not to like?

We texted and talked on the phone for several weeks.  We had many things in common, much to talk about and our communication style was quite similar and comfortable.

So we made plans to meet. Because if molten chocolate cake sounds good on a menu, it should be even better in person. Unless it has cold feet… and instead of the inside being warm and molten, it is frozen. And chances of a thaw were remote at best.

Well,  idea of this elegant cake sounded good; in theory anyway. Never happened and actually my fitness pal said I had no calories left, so it’s probably better that way!


Molten Lava Cake Recipe

8 oz. bittersweet chocolate (you can substitute 2 or 3 oz of semisweet chocolate if you like it a little sweeter)

1/2 cup AP flour

10 tablespoons unsalted butter (be careful not to use salted butter)

1.5 cups confectioners sugar

3 large eggs plus 3 yolks

1 tsp vanilla

2 tsp orange extract or orange liqueur

Preheat oven to 425 degrees F.

Grease 6 ramekins (use a good amount of cooking spray). Melt the chocolate and butter slowly in a double boiler, stirring with a rubber spatula frequently. Add the flour and sugar to the chocolate mixture. Stir in the eggs and yolks until smooth. Stir in the vanilla and orange extract. Divide the batter evenly among the ramekins. Put the ramekins on a cookie sheet and into the oven; bake for 14 minutes. The edges should be firm but the center will be runny. Run a knife around the edges to loosen and invert onto dessert plates.











Take 2 of dating and dessert…

This week is brought to you by…cheesecake. People like cheesecake. It is versatile and it seems like a good idea. There is a nice crust, giving the impression of stability. The cheese is good and not overly sweet.

M is a cheesecake. M seems like a good idea. He is a little outside My comfort zone, but that can be a good thing, right? He asks good questions. He’s been at the same job for 30 years.  Stable.  Until he isn’t, like you opened the oven while the cheesecake was baking and it fell down.

Several days of texts, with a date set to meet, M remembers that he is still in love with his girlfriend, the one he had before he was married   No, he hasn’t talked to her in 25 years, but it’s definitely the right time to reach out to her. Never should have been on a dating website, he says. Want to be honest with you.  (Maybe fruitcake would have been a better choice!)

That’s when I remember the reasons I don’t eat cheesecake- cheesecake is very dense.  Oh and I’m lactose intolerant. Duh. What was I thinking.

Nevertheless, the right cheesecake can make you smile, at least temporarily; give this one a try. I recommend only a few bites, cheesecake is good in very small doses to remind you that there are lots of other desserts you may like a lot better!


Food network’s basic cheesecake recipe is great place to start.  Then experiment…Add chocolate chips or peanut butter,  instead of vanilla extract try almond or lemon extract.  I personally don’t think this needs a topping, unless you want to use some fresh strawberries or raspberries. Enjoy